Some relationships will simply not survive working with me; they’re not built to withstand the brutality of their own truths. These are the relationships you have with mothers, fathers, friends, children, lovers, spouses, colleagues. They are your relationships with institutions, pets and even, with your former, present and future selves.
There is something that you should know, before you ask for help and it doesn’t even matter whom you’re asking. That something is this; The right advice, even if it leads you to despair and suffering, may still be the right advice. The wrong advice, even if it appears to offer more manageable avenues of diluted discomfort, may still be the wrong advice. Sometimes, it is as simple as choosing between prolonged and soul-grating pain over a lifetime, versus the intense and temporary God, this is killing me pain, over a matter of months.
Some people require only a countdown before the Band-Aid is ripped off; others need soapy water, the gentle teasing over time and multiple attempts.
If there are situations in your life from which you routinely avert your eyes, in mentoring they will be spotlit and placed squarely in front of you. A goal always, is to reflect back to you the reality that your choices are courting; to paint you a detailed picture of the chasm between how you desire to be treated, and how you are allowing yourself to be treated. It’s extremely unlikely I will ever tell you what to do, but I may tell you what someone who prioritises their standards, emotional health and who knows their value would do.
Choosing to be mentored is an unwise endeavour for some, only because they do not yet have the strength of heart, or character, to do what it will take to emerge their fullest self. Some people will never, in this lifetime, be resilient enough to dissolve everything keeping them locked into an identity that is far inferior to their soul’s capabilities. It is not a priority for them; real change is too much to bear.
As a mentor who has leaped, repeatedly, with only the safety net of divine intervention, I know first-hand the personal miracles available to us all. I also know the canyons of raw despair, the moments when darkness feels like a sheath that will never be lifted. It is why I am careful with my words, the verbalisation of my expectations and my deep knowledge of what you could truly achieve. It is why I am careful with whom I invite into the sacred conversations of self actualisation and self belief; careful professionally and personally with the comments and suggestions I speak into existence.
Good mentoring, whom ever you receive it from, will excavate all the things you are hiding and which are hiding from you. And whilst some of your relationships will not survive it, you will. You, with the right support, will survive. And it is you who is important. It is you who is the foundation of your own peace and greatness.
You would not be reading this, if you could not withstand what is to come.